Happy new year to all my followers and readers. I hope that 2016 will be one of your best years for having your dreams fulfilled. I am choosing to write about friendships for this first month of the new year. I think friendships are among the most valuable assets you can have to provide you with balance and stimulation.
If you can recall from my November newsletter I spoke of people we had met by going for morning cups of coffee to one of our favorite places. From those frequent visits we have come to know some lovely people. One of the couples I mentioned then, we now list among some of the nicest people we could have met. You may recall I spoke of a gentleman who owned a glider. Now, I feel embarrassed that I was so flippant in my thinking that he and his wife may be just passing through our lives like many others. Once our friendship developed with them both, I came to realize they were far more accomplished in their pursuits than we could ever be. My husband and I grew to want to know more about he and his wife. They have lived in some interesting countries that I wish we could have been with them during the times they speak so knowledgeably about. Not only do we find a lot in common with them now, but we have been able to extend our friendship to outside the coffee shop as well. I can truly say that I look forward to meeting up with them during the week. I number their life experiences among some of the most interesting. From my first experience of meeting them, I have learned that they are far from the average people we have met in the past.
It does us all good to think that we have someone we feel confident in talking to and they with us. There comes a time in all our lives when by a certain age you think that you have made all the firm friends you hope to; but it’s like taking a fresh gulp of mountain air when you realize that there are still people out in the world who may want to take up the challenge of making friends. I believe that it’s harder to find good friends later in life because most couples become set in their ways and already belong to long established friendship circles. Sometimes you question whether it’s too difficult to enter the learning curve of developing new friendships by hoping to belong to their established networks. It’s hard to know also whether the people to whom you’re drawn are prepared to go along with your desire to nurture a friendship. Sometimes feelings can be injured if you say something that may damage a fledgling association. If that happens later in the friendship building process it shouldn’t prove a breaking point for the friendship. If it happens early in your friendship, it can prove to be the pause at the crossroads for you to make a decision. You can either work hard at repairing the bumps in the road or you can let contact with them fall by the way.
I hope that 2016 will be a year that you all make new friends and that the relationship building will be a really enjoyable process. Those who are privileged to say that you have some friends will agree that it’s healthy to develop friendships and healthier still to list those people as your GOOD friends.
If you are lonely don’t give up hope of meeting someone to become your friend. Find an inviting coffee shop and start a conversation. It can be daunting, but it can lead to a fulfilling association. A library is another place where you can meet like-minded people. If you feel you lead too quiet a life, I’d love to think that 2016 is the time you step out and try to enrich your life by finding and making new friends.
Happy reading and writing,